Technology and Morals

 Hi Ya'll.

While technology has been deeply rooted in our daily lives now, certainly it clashes with ethics and morals in some spaces. Our daily routines have been so accustomed to the use of latest gadgets and apps that we’ve become somewhat slaves to it. Who remembers using landlines anymore? We have mobiles and they’re so much better! 

We find these devices a better, faster way to get anything done but we’re also damaging so many things in the process. Condolences are paid on phones and we lost the feel of hugging someone who needed it the most. Your best friend had a baby, you video-called instead of actually visiting, couriered the gifts along; the baby became familiar with you as “The aunt who comes on my phone and sends me parcels”. Oh and food is eaten only AFTER you’ve taken a few good pictures to be posted on social media.

The granny who longed to see you and talk to you is now hopelessly watching you staying busy in your tab sitting right beside her, as if you weren’t even there. The education suddenly flipped towards online meetings and assignments. The little children lost interest because they wished to sit beside their friends and learn together. 

Certain someone wants to keep a specific news to themselves, their news spirals like a wild fire because someone else posted and now social media is full of that one news. Your next door neighbor is extremely sick, you haven’t visited them in person since ages, so you find out about their illness through their social accounts rather than through going to their place.

Being rude to strangers was never even thought of in olden time, now we find everyone on the internet fighting with each other. Perseverance and patience is drained down the hole and everyone debates over who is right and who is not.

We lost the human touch as we dived deep into technology. It will not be wrong to say, we grew closer to technology and farther from our dear ones. We’re busy capturing photos of rare moments instead of truly treasuring them. We are too busy being ‘tech-savvy’ that we lose the real essence of an instance.

I truly feel if in some ways, technology is the best solution to a lot of issues, we’re somewhat downgrading our ‘human-ness’ due to it. 

We need to breathe and live more then being ‘techy’.

Conquer Hearts

 

Oh darling, don't be ready,

For serving trays delicious,

To people who are vicious,

For trolley full of eatery,

For people to munch on,

For table of exotics,

For ones who don't even care,

But darling please be ready,

To shove their opinions down their throats,

To let them know,

Their validations,

Aren't your necessity,

To punch a face when they make one,

Over how strong you are,

But,

Be ready my super human,

To achieve greater,

To believe better,

To know far more,

Then any of us do,

To stand taller,

To excel farther,

To top forward,

To be strong,

To be ambitious,

To be courageous,

To ALWAYS do the right thing,

No matter how down it feels,

To standup for yourself,

And walk over others' weight over you.

May you conquer hearts,

Rather then conquering the houses.

Amen.

Untitled Babble

 Heeeelllllooooo Thereeeee!

Lol yes, I abandoned this baby because I got real human babies to take care of!

Yup I became a mama bear to two beautiful souls, for whom I could do anything at all.

Life is different, I am a completely different person now. I didn't quite know that. I have changed, no, more like I have evolved into a completely different being. I am more of a kickass now. ;)

I didn't realize that. That after the birth of my babies, I'd meet someone completely different, and that will be me, A Whole New Me.

My older one is turning 5 in a few months and her younger brother 2. Oh how over whelming it still is to think I have tiny humans of my own who depend upon me for everything.

Sometimes no me time and only their time stresses the hell out of me. I have now promised myself, no matter what I will be making a tiny bit of PRODUCTIVE time for myself too. The reason this 'productive' is such big fat word is because I have spent this me-time doing absolute-unavailing and purposeless activities.

For now I have just two things in mind:

* Write more on my blog/Facebook blog (yep I have one called advents of mommyhood, and I am shamelessly promoting it here.)

*Exercise. Yep. Gotta loose the tummy tyre. can't blame two cesareans anymore because they happened long ago. :p

Embracing Motherhood

                Motherhood is a different journey. Different then any of the others anyone has ever been on. It takes so much of you but it completes you. It teaches you so many things.
                Motherhood takes strength. It takes time. It takes the whole of you. It's tough. It's all that and it's beautiful.
                  It's all of those moments when you think you're done with everything and it's all of those moments when you think it's just a beginning. It begins when you think everything is over. It begins when you think you can not do it anymore. It begins when you break down. It begins when you are at your wit's end. It begins when you are on the verge.
               It rises you up again and it makes you whole, complete. It gives you back all of your strength. I'd not have known this, if I wasn't a mother.
                If I was not a mother, I'd never have wiped a sticky smelly butt with so much love in my heart. If I was not a mother, I'd never have woken up, a hundred times a night and looked at a sleeping baby, just to make sure she's all okay and comfy in her sleep. If I was not a mother, I'd never have compromised on my hygiene and care, never slept in a puked-on PJ and letting go of oiling a my hair every once in a while.
                If I was not a mother, I'd never have slept odd hours and still be ready for the next day. If I was not a mother, I'd never have been so happy over a dirty nappy after days of little constipated tummy. If I was not a mother, I'd not ever have been so much happy that I'd burst crying with love and joy, over little steps, first words, first foods.
                If I was not a mother, I'd never have been happy over a dirty face, dirty table but a full tummy. If I was not a mother I'd never have been over joyed for a smile after a bad, cranky day. If I was not a mother, I'd never have felt the sparkle in the little eyes upon seeing me.
                If I was not a mother, I'd not have known that simple joys of life would bring immense tranquility in my heart and in my life.


Also, If I was not a mother, I could have blogged all of this last year when I actually wrote it. :)
                  

Black Horse

The Horse black as coal,
Shines like a diamond,
Smooth body, fur like a silk,
Running along the shore,
Creating chills over my shoulder,
Trying to touch it,
Trying to hold it,
Takes me away,
Farther away,
It's majestic powers,
It's perfect tail,
It's furious voice,
Sending hot gushes,
Down my spine,
And I think to myself,
What a beautiful sight to see,
But what a scary sense to feel.

Fight With-in

"If you can't fight your inner demons, you cant lead a peaceful life."

                      There's a lot that bothers you, a lot that angers the deepest part of your soul, a lot that you really dislike, but the wisest act in all of these kinds of situations is that you do not always blurt it out. You do not always release all this negativity. Specially, if it is just over a petty little thing. Not everything is meant to be addressed. Not everything is meant to be confronted. Not everything is meant to be approached the moment you find a mistake in it.

                    Sometimes, someone's respect is more important then letting them know what were their mistakes.  Sometimes, it's important that you ignore, rather then build up flames for a really tiny missed detail.

                   Unfortunately, a lot of us forget that. Not everything should be said. It only brings disrespect on both ends. Sometimes, love and politeness corrects more mistakes then anger and attack. Not only that, it brings more respect in hearts. If everyone starts understanding this, the world will be a little more brighter.

Not Everyone Matters, Make Peace.

                                     After all these years and all this time, I've learnt that it doesn't matter if whole of the world isn't happy with you. It doesn't matter if everyone doesn't appreciate or respect. It's okay to leave those faces unhappy. Because the people who love you for who you are wouldn't need explanations. The people who are truly yours will not need clarifications. They will not doubt your actions for even a second. They know you, they know who you are and what you did. Even if somethings don't turn out the way they expected to, they will not need a single word to believe that all your intentions and all your efforts were right. The people who love you truly and fiercely, will always stand by you, even when you don't expect them to.
                        The rest of the world can go and create unnecessary dramas. I've learnt that the hard way. I've learnt that it's not necessary to roam around people who have their egos on the highest shelf. It's okay to not try hard to make everyone like you. It's okay to leave the frowning faces exactly like they are and move about with your own life. You were only put on earth to please God the Almighty and not people, whose only job is to judge you from far away and label you some names.

 You deserve peace. Learn to make peace.